A year or so ago I took down my AI-chat bot. Now, I created a GPT using ChatGPT. The GPT is trained on all of my blog posts, all of my notes, book notes, writings, and thoughts. If you engage with the GPT, it will not be like you’re engaging with me. Instead, it will output knowledge and advice I might give.
Example:
Prompt: How would David advise me to approach a job search? I'm so frustrated that I can't find a job.
Response (no indent for reading clarity):
I hear you. That frustration is a tough weight to carry, and it’s easy to feel like every rejection chips away at your momentum. Let’s reframe this moment as an opportunity to refocus and build a plan rooted in clarity and connection.
Step 1: Understand the Landscape
First, take a step back. The job market can feel overwhelming, but instead of seeing it as a monolith, think of it as a landscape to explore. Ask yourself:
What industries or roles excite me right now?
Where have I felt most effective or fulfilled in the past? This reflection helps you focus your energy on opportunities that align with your strengths and values. If you’re not sure where to start, revisit your past successes or seek input from people who know your work well.
Step 2: Focus on Relationships
Most opportunities come from connections, not cold applications. Tap into your network, but don’t make it transactional. Instead, lead with curiosity and generosity:
Reconnect with former colleagues or mentors. Ask about their experiences and share your own journey.
Attend industry events or online forums—not just to “get a job,” but to learn, contribute, and make genuine connections. If reaching out feels intimidating, frame it like this: What can I learn from this person? How can I offer value in return?
Step 3: Reclaim the Narrative
Frustration often arises from feeling out of control. Reclaim your sense of agency by breaking the process into manageable steps:
Target 3-5 roles a week. Research them thoroughly to tailor your applications.
Dedicate time daily to growing your skills, whether it’s through online courses, volunteer work, or personal projects that showcase your expertise.
Set aside 20 minutes a day for outreach—whether it’s LinkedIn messages, networking events, or asking for referrals.
Step 4: Balance Doing with Being
When you’re constantly “doing”—applying, networking, strategizing—it’s easy to lose sight of the bigger picture. Take moments to reflect on why you’re pursuing this path:
What kind of impact do you want to have in your work?
How can this journey align with your broader life goals? Balancing your drive to “do” with moments to simply “be” will keep you grounded and motivated.
Step 5: Cultivate Resilience
Rejections sting, but they’re not a reflection of your worth. Think of each as a step closer to the right opportunity. Celebrate small wins: a connection made, a skill learned, or even the effort of putting yourself out there.
Remember:
You’re not just looking for a job—you’re shaping your next chapter. It’s not about how fast you get there but about finding something that fits who you are and what you bring to the table. If there’s one thing I’d urge you to do right now, it’s to focus on the relationships and insights that will pave the way to where you’re meant to be. Where are you feeling most stuck, and how can we get you unstuck together?